A series of emotions for Dads may come during nine months of pregnancy. It range from surprise finding out she’s pregnant or wishing she were not. There may be emotions pleasure and acceptance of the pregnancy task. The common reaction is ambivalence which is feeling of being pleased and not pleased.
Once you find out that you are pregnant, the expectant father should – as soon as possible – get educated about what is ahead. This means reading every part of this website! It is simply too late to wait for the second or third trimester to get a handle on the complexities of pregnancy. The staff at thefunkystork.com knows all too well that the first trimester goes by really, really fast! Take the time right away to explore the resources that are available online, from your medical professional and from books.
Dads are as important as moms in the lives of their children. According to research, children with little or no contact with their fathers are more likely to drop out of school and become involved in drug, alcohol abuse, crime, and violence. Even many fathers who are around their children are not emotionally present.
Your partner (or other support) can really help you at this time by being that additional protection for you and baby. Dad can have the job of filtering out people or information that may cause you disturbance so that you can enjoy peace and tranquillity in pregnancy.
The connection between a mother and her baby is that of a very intense bond which cannot be broken and often you might be left wondering whether your baby actually needs you. Do be assured that he or she does, for you have played an important role in bringing him or her into this world, and you can comfort and soothe the baby too just as your partner can nurse the baby.
As the pregnancy advances, the obstetrician will play an increasingly important role in your life as a couple. It is important that you establish a rapport with the doctor and the other hospital staff so that you are more comfortable in dealing with them later when you need to do so. You don’t want to be meeting the obstetrician for the first time when your baby is being born.
Ignoring signs of depression and anxiety. You are the one who’s NOT pregnant. You don’t have hormones raging inside of you. You need to watch out for extreme, and sometimes even subtle, changes in your spouse. Look out for signs of depression or high anxiety beyond what might be considered normal for a life-altering event. Studies are now showing depression in women WHILE pregnant, not just after the baby is born. It should also be noted that Post Pardum Depression can sometimes manifest itself with panic attacks.
But having a father in the house is much more important than our family courts or society in general have credited in the past. The statistics are absolutely horrific. And they prove that fatherless homes cost us taxpayers more money in welfare, crime, child delinquency, teen pregnancy and most of the other societal ills than we can imagine.
Effective fathering entails catering for the material, physical, social, intellectual, emotional and spiritual needs of a child until he or she arrives at young adulthood. Many fathers with little fathering knowledge take refuge in sending their children to reputable schools that will hopefully knock their children into shape. They forget that a father’s role is irreplaceable and keeping the child away from home at the most impressionable period of the child’s life is a deprivation many children never recover from even as adults.
Fatherhood, therefore, leads younger dads to end up thinking about their lost sense of independence. They now feel fenced in by the responsibility of fatherhood. Secondly, because they may not have yet built a strong financial base, they are faced with the prospect of making ends meet with the increased expenses.
In most of the cases, mothers are the ones who can take on the mantel of the caregiver as she carried the baby for 9 months. That is why mothers learn to love babies faster than fathers. As the mothers carry the baby, feed them and give them birth, it helps in creating a biochemical bond between the baby and the mother. So, it becomes tough for dads to intrude, especially since the baby is helpless.